Dr Merry C LinDr. Merry C Lin is a registered clinical psychologist with over 20 years of experience in counselling individuals, couples and families on a variety of personal issues. She specializes in helping people overcome depression, anxiety and fear, abuse and trauma, stress, grief, marital and relationship struggles, parenting and family issues, and other life stressors. Her passion is to help people of all ages discover their full potential and to realize their purpose and joy in life. She is also passionate about helping clients develop healthy relationships with their spouse, children, family, friends and co-workers.

Short Stories: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

Posted by on Apr 30, 2013 in Mental Health | 0 comments

Short Stories:  Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

    Note:  This short story includes a brief description of self-injury and a suicide attempt that may be disturbing to some readers. —— Chelsea danced to the loud beat of the music pounding through her apartment as she surveyed her clothes in the closet.  Pulling out a short black leather skirt, she paired it with a sheer black top adorned with sparkles all along it’s plunging neckline.  Oh yeah, baby, I’m going to look so hot tonight.  Jack won’t know what hit him!  Chelsea giggled happily, as she thought of...

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Short Stories: Living with Grief

Posted by on Apr 23, 2013 in Grief | 0 comments

Short Stories:  Living with Grief

  George stared blankly out of his office window, ignoring the messy stack of unprocessed forms sitting to the right of his elbow.  A fly buzzed loudly against the window, frantically searching for a way out.  It’s buzzing drew George’s attention and his gaze began to follow the fly’s erratic travels as it bounced against the grimy panes.  A faint beam of sunlight pierced through the dirt on the windows but did little to lighten the dreariness of the small office. With a start, George suddenly noticed the quiet.  The buzzing...

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Short Stories: Living With Marriage Heartache

Posted by on Apr 16, 2013 in Marriage and Relationships | 0 comments

Short Stories:  Living With Marriage Heartache

Dan sighed with weariness as he packed up his papers to take home. Another long night trying to get the budget done in time for his boss’ meeting with the big shots. If he had a choice, he would just stay at the office and get it done, but he knew Lydia would have his head on a platter if he did. Nothing I do ever makes her happy, I don’t know what to do anymore. She’s always on me for one thing or another. Dan sighed again. Even though his work was stressful, he still dreaded going home at the end of each day. It was like...

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Short Stories: Living with Abuse

Posted by on Apr 9, 2013 in Marriage and Relationships, Trauma and Abuse | 0 comments

Short Stories:  Living with Abuse

Tiffany came down the stairs and stopped abruptly.  There, on the kitchen counter, she noticed a bouquet of flowers with a card propped beside the vase.  Hesitantly, she made her way to the flowers and stood staring at them for a moment.  After smelling the blooms, Tiffany tentatively picked up the card.  She stared at her husband’s handwriting on the envelope for a moment before she slowly slid the card out and read his quick note: Beautiful flowers for my gorgeous wife! Love you very much, hon. Dropping the card on the counter,...

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Short Stories: Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder

Posted by on Apr 2, 2013 in Mental Health, Personal Growth, Trauma and Abuse | 24 comments

Short Stories:  Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder

The story below was submitted by a reader and edited for this blog.  Many thanks to this courageous reader who was willing to share a bit of her story with us through this fictionalized account. Rachel sat in the waiting room of the psychologist’s office, ready to bolt. This is crazy! What was I thinking to come here?  As she sat waiting anxiously, Rachel started to have that strange feeling again — that feeling where she was seeing things happen to her without actually being a part of them, like an observer watching her body and mind...

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Short Stories: Living with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

Posted by on Mar 26, 2013 in Mental Health | 0 comments

Short Stories:  Living with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

    “Joey!  Hurry up, your breakfast is getting cold!” Joey grunted angrily as he heard the shout come from downstairs.  He couldn’t believe his mom was so clueless!!  What was she doing interrupting him when she knew he was getting ready?  Arghhhh!  Now he had to start all over again, just when he was in his sixth run through.  Joey took a deep breath, fighting the growing panic in the pit of his stomach.  Stop, stop, stop, stop.  Left foot lined up neatly beside his shoe, laces laid out on either side of his shoe, equal in...

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Short Stories: Living with Depression

Posted by on Mar 5, 2013 in Mental Health | 7 comments

Short Stories:  Living with Depression

  The alarm buzzed stridently, waking Gwen with a start.  Confused for a moment, she looked around blankly before glancing at the clock and groaning.  After a long and restless night of tossing and turning, she was in no shape to start her day.  Her head was pounding and she felt like a heavy weight was pressing down on her chest.  Even though she had just spent 10 hours in bed, she felt exhausted and drained. As Gwen thought about the day ahead of her, waves of hopelessness came over her.  I can’t do this, she thought. Just then, her 4...

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An Invitation to Stories

Posted by on Feb 26, 2013 in Inspirational, Mental Health, Personal Growth | 2 comments

An Invitation to Stories

  As I’ve been thinking about my blogging, I’ve had a stirring in my heart to do something a bit different.  Something that’s not the usual offering from a psychologist — yet something that actually makes some sense, given that I really do have a front row seat to how God transforms people’s lives.  I have heard so many of your stories over the years; I have wept with you, I have celebrated with you, and I have carried hope for you when you have been at the end of your rope. And so, while I have enjoyed writing...

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Ask Dr. Merry: Stress Eating

Posted by on Feb 22, 2013 in Ask Dr. Lin, Mental Health, Personal Growth | 0 comments

Ask Dr. Merry:  Stress Eating

  I’ve just started a group therapy program at my church that is resurrecting all sorts of memories about my childhood that have been painful. All these thoughts/memories are coming to mind and I’m particularly aware that weight gain has been a cycle in my life since my parents separated when I was 10 years old. I realise when I go on vacation, other than eating less processed foods, I lose weight very quickly due to relaxing/stress relieving rest. My lifestyle is too busy and I’m praying and looking for a job that better...

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The Gift of Learning – Part 6 (of 6)

Posted by on Feb 19, 2013 in Family Life, Learning, Parenting | 0 comments

The Gift of Learning – Part 6 (of 6)

  As I wrap up my six-part series on The Gift of Learning, I want to thank all of you for hanging in there through this long series. I don’t think I could have done justice to this important topic if I focused less time and effort on it. For those of you who haven’t had a chance to read Parts 1, 2, 3, 4 and 5 of this series, I would encourage you to take the time now to review them before reading the conclusion in today’s blog. In writing this series, I am reminded once again of why I love what I do as a psychologist. I get to have a front...

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