Dr Merry C LinDr. Merry C Lin is a registered clinical psychologist with over 20 years of experience in counselling individuals, couples and families on a variety of personal issues. She specializes in helping people overcome depression, anxiety and fear, abuse and trauma, stress, grief, marital and relationship struggles, parenting and family issues, and other life stressors. Her passion is to help people of all ages discover their full potential and to realize their purpose and joy in life. She is also passionate about helping clients develop healthy relationships with their spouse, children, family, friends and co-workers.
 


On Why Psychology is Biblical

Posted by on Sep 3, 2012 in Mental Health, Personal Growth, Psychology and Faith | 4 comments

On Why Psychology is Biblical

The other day, I was in my car listening to a radio broadcast by a well-known pastor, and as I listened, I started getting angrier and angrier.  I found myself wanting to pound the steering wheel in frustration as I listened to his dismissive and judgemental comments about depression and the field of psychology, and his very simplistic solutions to just pray and think more “positive” thoughts.  He went so far as to denounce psychology as a “danger” to us and warned people to stay away from practitioners of this field.  ARGHHHH!! I recognize...

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Ask Dr. Merry: Son’s Out of Control Tantrums

Posted by on Aug 31, 2012 in Ask Dr. Lin, Family Life, Parenting | 0 comments

Ask Dr. Merry:  Son’s Out of Control Tantrums

Help!  I’m at my wit’s end with my 7 year old son, who is out of control with his rages.  He’s always been over the top with his tantrums but lately, he’s been banging his head against the wall when he’s angry, and then saying that he wants to die.  Normally, he’s such a sweet and lovable child, but when he has one of his fits, it can take him hours to calm down.  He’s starting to act out at school too when I drop him off, crying and wailing that he doesn’t want to go in.  Its gotten to the...

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Creating an Emotionally Safe Marriage

Posted by on Aug 29, 2012 in Marriage and Relationships, Personal Growth | 0 comments

Creating an Emotionally Safe Marriage

All of us are designed by God to have strong and secure attachments to the people we love. This truth is clearly outlined in the Bible: God created us to be in relationship with him and with others; God desires intimacy with us and he’s also given us other intimate relationships to help fill our hearts and our longings for love and connection. From the time that we are conceived, we are being shaped by the attachment relationships we have. We develop a sense of safety and security when we believe that we are understood, accepted and valued,...

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The Heart of Parenting

Posted by on Aug 27, 2012 in Family Life, Parenting | 4 comments

The Heart of Parenting

I was speaking at a parenting workshop recently, teaching about how to discipline our kids. And as usual, I opened up the floor to questions and a discussion forum. What I found remarkable about the audience was how well-informed most of these parents were already about raising their kids. As I listened to their questions and conversations, I heard a lot of discussions about how to make sure that their kids were potty-trained by the time they were two, how to deal with tantrums, and how to teach their kids respect. Parents were well-read and...

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Ask Dr. Merry: Husband in Abusive Marriage

Posted by on Aug 24, 2012 in Ask Dr. Lin, Family Life, Marriage and Relationships, Trauma and Abuse | 1 comment

Ask Dr. Merry:  Husband in Abusive Marriage

I am a pastor and have been married for 14 years, have 3 children, and a deep secret. Abuse happens in my home. From the first year of marriage, my wife has been emotionally and physically abusive towards me. When I met my wife, she had a host of very serious struggles with mental illness. I had no idea that being what I thought was a godly and compassionate man would backfire with 14 years of abuse – 14 years of serial infidelities, emotional and physical abuse. After years of this, my-self-image is destroyed and I am horribly...

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Common Stress Traps

Posted by on Aug 22, 2012 in Mental Health, Personal Growth | 2 comments

Common Stress Traps

  After recently recovering from a time of burn-out, I well understand the pressures that drive many of us and keep us in a state of constant stress.  And unfortunately, as the stress accumulates in our life, it can cause a myriad of health maladies, even to the point of death.  I have had to walk too many young widows/widowers and their kids through seasons of grief because of medical problems that could have been averted if their loved ones had learned to better manage their stress.  But it seems that no matter how often I “preach” about...

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