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A Time Of Grief and Sorrow

»Posted on Nov 21, 2016 in Grief | 0 comments

Grief is a funny thing.

One minute, you’re laughing so hard that you’re snorting, and the next minute, the terrible, yawning emptiness in your heart hits you like a sucker punch to the solar plexus. It takes everything in you just to breathe through the pain.

Grief is jagged. Grief interrupts. Grief takes you on a u-turn. Every single time.

So I’m learning to give myself space and grace. To forgive myself for the unexpected flares of anger and moodiness. To let myself weep when the loss overwhelms. And most of all, to stay in the pocket of grief with courage, even as everything in me wants to run away or numb myself.

Because how else do you find meaning in your grief? Grief is teaching me to cherish each moment with my loved ones. It’s teaching me to count each treasured day as a gift. It’s teaching me to live with gratitude and deliberate joy NOW, rather than waste my days in bitterness or regret, pining away over unfulfilled dreams or unresolved sorrows.

Grief’s dark shadow accentuates the vibrant colours of life and love.

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On the Meaning of Life, Love and Pink Hair

»Posted on Oct 9, 2015 in The Fully Lived Life | 0 comments

I have to confess something: I’m turning 50 in a few weeks. But I’m not going down without a fight. Just sayin’.

No, it’s not a mid-life crisis (although my friends and family may differ in their opinion). Actually, it’s a glorious season in my life. Because I think I have finally grown up. I think I have learned to stop chasing the brass ring, the pursuit of “success” that meant I had finally arrived; that people approved of me; that somehow I was worthy.

Now, I measure much more carefully each moment in my life, and I choose to treasure the good gifts that God has given me. I choose to give priority to the people in my life, the relationships that enrich my life. I think, if I can love them well, would that not be a life well lived? If I can truly represent the love of Jesus to those around me, would that not be a life of success?

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Just a few weeks ago, I heard a pastor preach about a soldier in the Bible. I can’t remember the soldier’s name or where the reference is in the Bible, because, frankly, that’s a reality of turning 50. But hey, I’m still going to talk about this story because as a junior senior, I’m allowed to ramble on about what I want to talk about. But I digress. So this soldier was well trained and all set to go out to battle. He was ready to DIE for the king. But when he presented himself to the king, the king sent him out to guard his lentil field. The LENTILS. Because apparently the king loved his lentils.

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That got me thinking. How many lentil fields have I bypassed in my pursuit of success, wealth, and the BIG call? Have I lost sight of what is important to God? Even in my desire to do the BIG thing for God, have I forgotten to do the “small” thing that God wants me to do? In my heart, I so want to live full out for Christ. I feel many times that I would DIE for him. But what if he just wants me to guard his precious lentils?

I gotta be honest with you. Being an author and speaker who has been on national TV, it’s hard not to count the numbers. How many books have I sold? How large is the audience I’m speaking to? How many followers do I have on social media? How often have I let the NUMBERS define my success, that somehow I matter more if I reach more people?

Turning 50 is a time of reflection as I’ve likely passed the point where I’ve lived more years than I will live. It’s causing me to think about my life, about my values and what I’m going to invest the rest of my time in doing. Now, I think… if I die in obscurity but have taken good care of God’s lentil fields, then maybe, just maybe, I have lived a life well lived.

So what about you? Have you allowed time to pass you by without stopping to reflect? Are you sleepwalking through life? STOP now, and choose to THINK about your life, before too much time passes you by. Will you watch this video now and think about what God may be stirring in your soul?

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Oh, and what I said about not going down without a fight? Let’s just say it involves a few things I’ve chosen to do to demarcate my glorious step into my 50s.

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By the way, the meaning of Soli Deo Gloria? Glory to God alone.

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Soul Rescue

»Posted on May 27, 2015 in The Fully Lived Life | 3 comments

Have you found yourself sleepwalking through life? Are you soul weary? Do you long to fully live but don’t know how? 

Wherever you are in life right now, there probably have been many unexpected turns along the way.  Maybe you aren’t where you thought you’d be, however you first dreamt your life would be. Instead, the realities of your life may be keeping you stuck, unable to break free no matter how hard you pray. Maybe you feel completely overwhelmed by life’s demands, weary beyond belief and wondering where all your hope has gone.

Or you may know you’re blessed, that you really have a “good life” and are very fortunate, but you may still have lost your joy in it. You go through dreary daily routines, fulfilling your duties to your family, work and God, but your heart is dry. Where is the passion and joy within the unending gray monotony of life? This “good life” you have steals your right to complain, so you “suck it up” and keep trudging along. 

Or maybe you’re like me, and deep down, you know that there’s something blocking you from the full life Jesus promised you. You know God probably wants you to deal with it, but you don’t have the time, or the energy, or the courage. Or maybe you just don’t even know where to begin to rescue your soul. Whether it’s unresolved trauma, fear, self-sufficiency or – as it was for me – an inability to fully trust a God who has allowed so much pain and suffering in your life – isn’t it time to allow the Rescuer of our souls help us break free? 

We all try to ignore the emptiness of the soul. But there is something inescapable within each of our souls that hungers so painfully that we can’t even begin to put it into words, something so deep it won’t go away no matter how hard we try. As David said in Psalm 42:1-2, “As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God”.

We aren’t meant to live a dead life. A superficial life. A life oblivious to the stirrings of our hearts. For it’s only in that mysterious depth of our souls that we sense there’s something missing that’s core to life; it’s a painful awareness that we must finally acknowledge and reach into and find God.

Meet You in This Deep Place

God wants to meet you in this deep place, in the inner recess of your heart to meet him there face to face to change your life. He wants to bring you back to life, to know you intimately so that you may know yourself in his love, as he first created you to be. He wants to free you and take over fully because he knows best how we were created to live—completely surrendered to him. For then he knows you will experience the extraordinary in your life, the full life that is his perfect will for you. A life lived fully. 

Take the time now to watch this video as I share about my journey towards soul rescue. And listen to what God is saying to you as you watch.

Come and see. Our Father is inviting you to A FULL LIFE with him.

Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly. (Matthew 11:28–30, The Message) 

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Facing Sexual Abuse ◆ Finding Joy in the Midst of Trauma

»Posted on Mar 28, 2015 in Abuse, Grief, Trauma and Abuse | 0 comments

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One of the most difficult aspects of my job as a psychologist is having to venture into the depravity of mankind, particularly as it brings about unthinkable harm and unbelievable trauma to others. It is something that can be so unfathomably dark that if feels like a sucker punch to the gut each time. I never get used to our human capacity for evil, even as it keeps me humble and ever so grateful for the grace of God who can come into any darkness and bring about hope.

And THAT is why I continue to do what I do – because I have seen God heal, I have seen him bring about immense joy in the midst of pain and suffering, I have seen his beautiful, grace-filled, redemptive work in the lives of many people.

YES, there is hope – great hope for all of us.  For all of us who have experienced trauma, abuse, loss.

One of the most traumatic forms of trauma is sexual abuse – especially if it is perpetrated by a trusted family or friend. What makes it even more difficult is that it tends to be cloaked in secrecy and shame that can forever mark the victim as “garbage”. But that is not from God, that is a lie straight from the pit of hell.  Finding joy and healing after sexual abuse is the theme of the video in today’s blog.  If this is you, please take the time to watch the video and then choose to reach out for help.

My personal mission is to bring hope and healing to many people, not by my efforts – which is so inadequate in the face of such pain, but by being someone who exemplifies Jesus Christ in how I love deeply, show compassion and acceptance, and create a safe place for the sufferer to heal.  If you’ve been injured by abuse, please choose to reach out for help.  You can break free from the chains of abuse. You can be whole again, free to enjoy healthy relationships and a full life.

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Healing of Trauma

»Posted on Jan 21, 2015 in Grief | 0 comments

Healing of Trauma: The last few weeks have been a time of profound impact for me. I had the privilege of journeying to Bangladesh and India to visit local pastors moving  to remote villages to show the love of Christ to people who’ve never heard the gospel. I also had the heart-rendering joy of visiting an after-care home for girls rescued from human trafficking.

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I am still reflecting on all that I have experienced, but one thing is for sure: human suffering is universal, as is our God’s grace in times of great darkness and his redemption of our pain. I was brought to tears multiple times – not just because of the sorrow I felt when faced with the depravity of man and the grievous injuries we can do to one another, but mostly because of the rampant love of Jesus Christ that I saw expressed towards the broken by our brothers and sisters in Bangladesh and India.

 

The biggest surprise from my trip? That the predominant emotion I experienced was JOY. And HOPE.
The people I met were not charity cases to be pitied. They were beautiful people with stories that were rich with themes of God’s redemption. They were living examples of God’s love and power to heal, even in the face of overwhelming trauma.

 

If you’ve experienced trauma in your life, please know that healing is possible. You don’t need to remain trapped in fear or isolation. Please choose to reach out for help. And as you do, may you experience overwhelming grace and healing from the One who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine.
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