Dr Merry C LinDr. Merry C Lin is a registered clinical psychologist with over 20 years of experience in counselling individuals, couples and families on a variety of personal issues. She specializes in helping people overcome depression, anxiety and fear, abuse and trauma, stress, grief, marital and relationship struggles, parenting and family issues, and other life stressors. Her passion is to help people of all ages discover their full potential and to realize their purpose and joy in life. She is also passionate about helping clients develop healthy relationships with their spouse, children, family, friends and co-workers.
 


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On the Meaning of Life, Love and Pink Hair

Posted by on Oct 9, 2015 in The Fully Lived Life | 0 comments

On the Meaning of Life, Love and Pink Hair

I have to confess something: I’m turning 50 in a few weeks. But I’m not going down without a fight. Just sayin’. No, it’s not a mid-life crisis (although my friends and family may differ in their opinion). Actually, it’s a glorious season in my life. Because I think I have finally grown up. I think I have learned to stop chasing the brass ring, the pursuit of “success” that meant I had finally arrived; that people approved of me; that somehow I was worthy. Now, I measure much more carefully each moment in my life, and I choose to treasure the...

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Soul Rescue

Posted by on May 27, 2015 in The Fully Lived Life | 3 comments

Soul Rescue

Have you found yourself sleepwalking through life? Are you soul weary? Do you long to fully live but don’t know how?  Wherever you are in life right now, there probably have been many unexpected turns along the way.  Maybe you aren’t where you thought you’d be, however you first dreamt your life would be. Instead, the realities of your life may be keeping you stuck, unable to break free no matter how hard you pray. Maybe you feel completely overwhelmed by life’s demands, weary beyond belief and wondering where all your hope has gone. Or you...

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Facing Sexual Abuse ◆ Finding Joy in the Midst of Trauma

Posted by on Mar 28, 2015 in Abuse, Grief, Trauma and Abuse | 0 comments

Facing Sexual Abuse ◆ Finding Joy in the Midst of Trauma

One of the most difficult aspects of my job as a psychologist is having to venture into the depravity of mankind, particularly as it brings about unthinkable harm and unbelievable trauma to others. It is something that can be so unfathomably dark that if feels like a sucker punch to the gut each time. I never get used to our human capacity for evil, even as it keeps me humble and ever so grateful for the grace of God who can come into any darkness and bring about hope. And THAT is why I continue to do what I do – because I have seen God heal,...

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Healing of Trauma

Posted by on Jan 21, 2015 in Grief | 0 comments

Healing of Trauma

Healing of Trauma: The last few weeks have been a time of profound impact for me. I had the privilege of journeying to Bangladesh and India to visit local pastors moving  to remote villages to show the love of Christ to people who’ve never heard the gospel. I also had the heart-rendering joy of visiting an after-care home for girls rescued from human trafficking. I am still reflecting on all that I have experienced, but one thing is for sure: human suffering is universal, as is our God’s grace in times of great darkness and his...

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Co-Dependency

Posted by on Dec 16, 2014 in Family Life, Marriage and Relationships, Personal Growth | 0 comments

Co-Dependency

Do you ever find yourself in a pattern of rescuing or taking care of the emotional needs of others? Do you ever feel like it’s up to you to stop them from doing irresponsible or harmful things? Do you find yourself placing a lower priority on your own needs, while being preoccupied with the needs of others? While this is an issue of boundaries, it’s actually a deeper issue of co-dependency between you and your spouse or friend. This type of relationship is not uncommon when one person struggles with an addiction, an unhealthy habit, or...

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Emotionally Safe Marriage

Posted by on Dec 2, 2014 in Marriage and Relationships | 0 comments

Emotionally Safe Marriage

  All of us are designed by God to have strong and secure attachments to people we love. From the time that we are conceived, we are being shaped by our attachment relationships. We develop a sense of safety and security from these important relationships. These are questions of ATTACHMENT – this isn’t about STEPS you take to be closer to your spouse, but it’s more about “ways of being” with your spouse. These qualities mean that you are someone with whom your spouse can feel safe and secure. An emotionally safe marriage is one in which you...

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Stress and Burnout

Posted by on Nov 18, 2014 in Family Life, Mental Health, Personal Growth | 0 comments

Stress and Burnout

I’m seeing an alarming trend of clients coming into my office: Overworked, overtired, and stressed-out. They come complaining of depression and anxiety symptoms, but when I assess what’s going on in their lives, it sounds a lot like they’re well on the way to burn-out. Stress is becoming one of the number one killers in North America today.  We all know that, I think.  We’ve certainly all heard the warnings and likely most of us know at least one person who died prematurely due to stress-related diseases.  Many of us are now living at an...

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Parenting Principles

Posted by on Nov 4, 2014 in Family Life, Parenting | 0 comments

Parenting Principles

When I talk to parents about their kids, it often seems like their focus is on external indicators of “right” behaviour. They will ask me for help in changing their kids’ behaviour, or disciplining tips to get them to be well-behaved. I know that they love their kids, but I think they are looking at the wrong things to change. The truth is how kids turn out is far more dependent on what’s going on inside their hearts than on their outside behaviour. That means that as a parent, my capacity to connect with my kids’ hearts is more important...

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Healthy Boundaries

Posted by on Oct 30, 2014 in Family Life, Marriage and Relationships, Mental Health, Personal Growth | 0 comments

Healthy Boundaries

One of the biggest issues that crop up time and time again when I work with people is that of boundaries. As Christians, we often confuse the mandate to love others with tolerating all sorts of boundary violations. Learning to set healthy boundaries is essential for maintaining a positive self-image. It is our way of communicating to others that we have self-respect, and we will not allow others to define us. They are the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual limits we establish to protect ourselves from being manipulated, used, or...

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Handling Relationship Conflicts

Posted by on Oct 28, 2014 in Family Life, Marriage and Relationships | 0 comments

Handling Relationship Conflicts

A very common question I hear from couples is: My spouse and I keep arguing about the same things over and over. How do we break this impasse? To learn about some principles that work to break this cycle of conflict, take a look at the video clip included in this blog.  Keep in mind that your focus should be on YOUR part of the conflict, because you only have control over your part. By the way, the principles are also relevant to your other relationships, whether with your kids, family members or friends. While these principles are helpful...

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